This is one of the most confusing parts of Korean for newcomers, because unlike English, the word changes depending on your own gender, not just the other person’s age. Once the logic clicks, it’s actually simple — it just takes seeing it laid out clearly once.

How the audio works: tap the speaker button on any word and your device’s built-in Korean voice will say it out loud — no app or download needed.

What a Woman Calls an Older Friend

Older Male Friend

oppa

Used by a woman for an older brother, boyfriend, or close male friend

Older Female Friend

unnie

Used by a woman for an older sister or close female friend

What a Man Calls an Older Friend

Older Male Friend

hyung

Used by a man for an older brother or close male friend

Older Female Friend

nuna

Used by a man for an older sister or close female friend

A group of friends hugging each other and smiling

These words are used with close friends just as often as with actual siblings — that’s exactly why K-drama characters use them so freely.

Words for Couples

Romantic Partner

jagiya

Honey / babe (used between romantic partners)

Affectionate

aegiya

Baby (affectionate, romantic or with a close friend)

One important note: these are casual, close-relationship words. Using “오빠” with a stranger or someone you’ve just met would sound odd or overly familiar — save these for people you actually know, or characters clearly in that kind of relationship on screen.

These Words Are the Tip of a Bigger System

Korean has an entire structure of politeness and relationship levels built into the language itself — once you understand it, dialogue in dramas and idol interviews suddenly makes a lot more sense. Here’s the system we recommend for learning it properly.

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